"I’ve grown up my whole life playing second-fiddle to the pretty girl. And it took a really long time for me to realize that it’s okay to be who I am, and that in somebody’s eyes, I might be the pretty girl. Coming to terms with the amount of space I take up in the world, which is also like a feminist conceit too, because we’re taught from birth to shrink ourselves. Erasing fine lines and wrinkles. Shrinking two sizes. Making varicose veins disappear. It’s like this language that wants women to not be visible.” - Meredith Graves
I want to quote this entire video. This is perfect; she is the most beautiful speaker.
This is incredible and SO SO important and has actually made me feel better about certain things lately, particularly with what she said about being taken seriously and misogynistic comments from men on the internet.
you know how when you go to a concert or show of some sort and the person on stage is like “HOW’S EVERYONE DOING TONIGHT?!?!?!?!” and the audience cheers back? why? you’re not answering the question, you’re just yelling. imagine if we did that in daily conversation. “hey jeff, how are ya?” and jeff just starts screaming and clapping in your face